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LISTENING LEADERSHIP PERFORMANCE

BETTER LISTENING =
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Why a website on Listening Pays

I have spent the past 25 years studying, practicing, teaching, researching, and writing about LISTENING and its direct connection to LEADERSHIP. I have realized one main thing: IF YOU LISTEN BETTER, YOU WILL LEAD BETTER. Why? Because listening is at the core of all human behavior and especially at the root of effective leadership. Listening is the thing we do the most of in our life, except breathing.

ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? It’s estimated that the majority of adults do not have any formal listening education. Yet, the average person misunderstands, ignores or forgets at least 75% of what they listen to. ‘Listening’ is definitely not the same thing as ‘hearing’. The costs of poor listening are too high to ignore, including loss of relationships, opportunities, trust, respect, credibility, money, and even loss of life, just to name a few. People lose when they don’t listen!

This website contains both free and affordable resources for you to increase your LISTENING LEADERSHIP performance. It consists of articles, books, assessments, a blog, an app, one-on-one and group listening and leadership coaching, listening aids, courses, seminars, podcasts, speeches, and retreats.

I encourage you to invest your time, effort, and energy in your listening leadership performance. It is a lifelong process and the results will prove invaluable to you. It has for me. LISTENING PAYS!

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Rick Bommelje, Ed.D., CLP

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WHICH VOICE DO YOU CHOOSE TO LISTEN TO?

By on April 9, 2014

A powerful old story captures the importance of the messages that we listen to inside of our heads.

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:GOOD WOLF-BAD WOLF

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.”  It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”

You might have heard the story ends like this: The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed the most my son.”

In the Cherokee world, however, the story ends this way:

The old Cherokee simply replied, “If you feed them right, they both win.” and the story goes on:

“You see, if I only choose to feed the good wolf, the bad one will be hiding around every corner waiting for me to become distracted or weak and jump to get the attention he craves. He will always be angry and always fighting the good wolf. But if I acknowledge him, he is happy and the good wolf is happy and we all win. For the bad wolf has many qualities – tenacity, courage, fearlessness, and strong-willed – that I have need of at times and that the good wolf lacks. But the good wolf has compassion, caring, strength and the ability to recognize what is in the best interest of all.

“You see, son, the good wolf needs the bad wolf at his side. To feed only one would starve the other and they will become uncontrollable. To feed and care for both means they will serve you well and do nothing that is not a part of something greater, something good, something of life. Feed them both and there will be no more internal struggle for your attention. And when there is no battle inside, you can listen to the voices of deeper knowing that will guide you in choosing what is right in every circumstance. Peace, my son, is the Cherokee mission in life. A man or a woman who has peace inside has everything. A man or a woman who is pulled apart by the war inside him or her has nothing.

“How you choose to interact with the opposing forces within you will determine your life. Starve one or the other or guide them both.”

                                                ~ Cherokee Story

LISTENING PAYS…. If you choose to really listen to all sides.

 

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LISTEN LIKE MR. ROGERS

By on March 19, 2014

On March 20, we celebrate TV personality and Rollins College Alum Mr. Fred Rogers who would have been 86 years old.  He passed away in 2003.  Fred Rogers dedicated his life to serving children. His relentless commitment to all that

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LISTENING LEADERS TAKE NOTES

By on February 5, 2014

A fundamental tool for listening leaders is taking notes.  Although you may periodically take notes when you are on the phone or in meetings, the majority of leaders normally do not take written notes.    The following 6 suggestions are

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HOW TO MEASURE YOUR LISTENING

By on January 4, 2014

  “If you can’t measure it, you can’t improve it.”  This is one of the most important business quotes from Dr. Peter Drucker, Father of Modern Management.  Dr. Drucker has left us with this sage advice that we can use

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GET ON THE BALCONY

By on December 17, 2013

Do you spend most of your time in the ‘DOING’ of life? If so, you are most likely not realizing your fullest capacity.  Consider the importance of GETTING ON THE BALCONY periodically to check out what is happening.  This is