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OPEN THE GATE to INCREASE your
LISTENING LEADERSHIP PERFORMANCE

BETTER LISTENING =
BETTER LEADERSHIP

Why a website on Listening Pays

I have spent the past 25 years studying, practicing, teaching, researching, and writing about LISTENING and its direct connection to LEADERSHIP. I have realized one main thing: IF YOU LISTEN BETTER, YOU WILL LEAD BETTER. Why? Because listening is at the core of all human behavior and especially at the root of effective leadership. Listening is the thing we do the most of in our life, except breathing.

ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? It’s estimated that the majority of adults do not have any formal listening education. Yet, the average person misunderstands, ignores or forgets at least 75% of what they listen to. ‘Listening’ is definitely not the same thing as ‘hearing’. The costs of poor listening are too high to ignore, including loss of relationships, opportunities, trust, respect, credibility, money, and even loss of life, just to name a few. People lose when they don’t listen!

This website contains both free and affordable resources for you to increase your LISTENING LEADERSHIP performance. It consists of articles, books, assessments, a blog, an app, one-on-one and group listening and leadership coaching, listening aids, courses, seminars, podcasts, speeches, and retreats.

I encourage you to invest your time, effort, and energy in your listening leadership performance. It is a lifelong process and the results will prove invaluable to you. It has for me. LISTENING PAYS!

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Rick Bommelje, Ed.D., CLP

FOLLOW UP

FOLLOW UP AND GROW

By on February 12, 2015

Leaders who ask for input and then follow up to see if progress is being made are seen as people who care. Co-workers might well infer FOLLOW UPthat leaders who don’t respond to feedback must not care very much. Historically, a great deal of leadership development has focused on the importance of an event. This event could be a training program, a motivational speech, or an offsite executive meeting. In a study by Marshall Goldsmith and Howard Morgan, two of the most premier executive coaches in the world, they have found that real leadership development involves a process that occurs over time, not an inspiration or transformation that occurs in a meeting.

Physical exercise provides a useful analogy. Imagine having out-of-shape people sit in a room and listen to a speech on the importance of exercising, then watch some tapes on how to exercise, and perhaps practice exercising. Would you ever wonder why these people were still unfit a year later? The source of physical fitness is not understanding the theory of working out; it is engaging in exercise. As Arnold Schwarzenegger has said, “Nobody ever got muscles by watching me work out!” So, too, with leadership development. As Professor Drucker, Dr. Hersey, and Dr. Blanchard have pointed out, leadership involves a reliance on other co-workers to achieve objectives. Who better than these same co-workers to help the leader increase effectiveness?

Continual contact with colleagues regarding development issues is so effective it can succeed even without a large, formal program. Leaders who do not have coaches can be coached broadly by their co-workers. The key to changing behavior is “learning to learn” from those around us, and then modifying our behavior on the basis of their suggestions. Using very streamlined and efficient training processes and “reminder notes” can help leaders achieve a positive long-term change in effectiveness, without using coaches at all.

If the organization can teach the leader to reach out to co-workers, to listen and learn, and to focus on continuous development, both the leader and the organization will benefit. After all, by following up with col-leagues, a leader demonstrates a commitment to self-improvement — and a determination to get better. This process does not have to take a lot of time or money. There’s something far more valuable: contact.

LISTENING PAYS…..If you make the Investment!

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