Useful Resources to
OPEN THE GATE to INCREASE your
LISTENING LEADERSHIP PERFORMANCE

BETTER LISTENING =
BETTER LEADERSHIP

Why a website on Listening Pays?

A Letter from Rick

Listening is …
        the heart and soul of leadership
        the ultimate leadership competence
        the lifeblood of relationship
        the essence of respect
        the spirit of life.

I have spent the past 25 years studying, practicing, teaching, researching, and writing about LISTENING and its direct connection to LEADERSHIP. I have realized one main thing: IF YOU LISTEN BETTER, YOU WILL LEAD BETTER. Why? Because listening is at the core of all human behavior and especially at the root of effective leadership. Listening is the thing we do the most of in our life, except breathing.

ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? It’s estimated that the majority of adults do not have any formal listening education. Yet, the average person misunderstands, ignores or forgets at least 75% of what they listen to. ‘Listening’ is definitely not the same thing as ‘hearing’. The costs of poor listening are too high to ignore, including loss of relationships, opportunities, trust, respect, credibility, money, and even loss of life, just to name a few. People lose when they don’t listen!

This website contains both free and affordable resources for you to increase your LISTENING LEADERSHIP performance. It consists of articles, books, assessments, a blog, an app, one-on-one and group listening and leadership coaching, listening aids, courses, seminars, podcasts, speeches, and retreats. I have also created a Listening Pays Facilitators Certification Program for qualified professionals in which you will be equipped by me to deliver the Listening Pays Workshop to your organization.

Join me on the journey. I encourage you to invest your time, effort, and energy in your listening leadership performance. It is a lifelong process and the results will prove invaluable to you. It has for me. LISTENING PAYS!

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Rick Bommelje, Ed.D., CLP
Lifelong Listening Student

MINDFUL COMMUNICATION

COMMUNICATE MINDFULLY

By on July 18, 2015

After all we go through. we are asked to lead a life of honest expression, which starts with listening as a way to remember what matters, MINDFUL COMMUNICATIONto name what matters, and to voice what matters. These are the practices that keep us authentic.” ~ Mark Nepo, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen.

In our warped speed world, mindfulness is quickly becoming a leadership practice of great value…slowing down and focusing on what matters most. The practice can be extended to our communication and we call this mindful communication. The essence of communicating mindfully is about cultivating understanding and love. It’s a practice devoted to pausing; noticing breathing; identifying and expressing feelings, needs, and expectations with care and respect; and listening for the same in others, asking open questions, and deeply listening with all our senses.

We change hats between being the speaker and listener many hundreds of times during a day. Here are some tips that can keep you in the present moment and bring your communication to a new level:

MINDFUL SPEAKING

  1. Be fully present
  2. Speak from the mid-chest and not the mouth. Speak from your heart, with passion and simplicity.
  3. Talk about what really matters. Tell it like it is, with respect.

Sharing your feelings, expectations and needs builds trust, understanding and a mutual relationship that bridges distance between people.

MINDFUL LISTENING

  1. Be fully present
  2. Listen heart fully, from the your mid-chest rather than just your ears.
  3. Deeply understand before evaluating. Don’t be quick to jump to an assumption or conclusion.
  4. Respond appropriately. Not only with your words, but with your entire body, being mindful of what you say, how you say it, and what you show in your facial expressions and body movements.

Adopting a mindful approach to communication has many benefits including shared understanding, strengthened relationships, deepened trust, and a keen awareness.

LISTENING PAYS POINT: Take your communication to a new level by being mindful as you speak and listen.

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