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A Letter from Rick

Listening is …
the heart and soul of leadership
the ultimate leadership competence
the lifeblood of relationship
the essence of respect
the spirit of life.

I have spent the past 25 years studying, practicing, teaching, researching, and writing about LISTENING and its direct connection to LEADERSHIP. I have realized one main thing: IF YOU LISTEN BETTER, YOU WILL LEAD BETTER. Why? Because listening is at the core of all human behavior and especially at the root of effective leadership. Listening is the thing we do the most of in our life, except breathing.

ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? It’s estimated that the majority of adults do not have any formal listening education. Yet, the average person misunderstands, ignores or forgets at least 75% of what they listen to. ‘Listening’ is definitely not the same thing as ‘hearing’. The costs of poor listening are too high to ignore, including loss of relationships, opportunities, trust, respect, credibility, money, and even loss of life, just to name a few. People lose when they don’t listen!

This website contains both free and affordable resources for you to increase your LISTENING LEADERSHIP performance. It consists of articles, books, assessments, a blog, an app, one-on-one and group listening and leadership coaching, listening aids, courses, seminars, podcasts, speeches, and retreats. I have also created a Listening Pays Facilitators Certification Program for qualified professionals in which you will be equipped by me to deliver the Listening Pays Workshop to your organization and the Leadership MasterMind Alliance to create opportunities for leadership development.

Join me on the journey. I encourage you to invest your time, effort, and energy in your listening leadership performance. It is a lifelong process and the results will prove invaluable to you. It has for me. LISTENING PAYS!

Rick Bommelje, Ed.D., CLP
Lifelong Listening Student



By on November 20, 2015

Morgan Scott Peck was an American psychiatrist and best-selling author, well known for his first book, The Road Less Traveled. HARD WORKIn this classic, he emphasized, “Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because most people do not realize this or they are not willing to do the work that they do not listen well.”

 To illustrate this, he gave a personal example:

“I attended a lecture by a famous man on an aspect of the relationship between psychology and religion in which I have long been interested. Because of my interest, I had a certain amount of expertise in the subject and immediately recognized the lecturer to be a great sage indeed. I also sensed love in the tremendous effort that he was exerting to communicate, with all manner of examples, highly abstract concepts that were difficult for us, his audience, to comprehend.

 I, therefore, listened to him with all the intentness for which I was capable. Throughout the hour and a half he talked, sweat was dripping down my face in the air-conditioned auditorium. By the time he was finished I had a throbbing headache, the muscles in my neck were rigid from my effort at concentration, and I felt completely drained and exhausted. Although I estimated that I had understood no more than 50 percent of what this great man had said to us that afternoon, I was amazed by the large number of brilliant insights he had given me.

 From the lecture, which was well attended by the culture-seeking individuals, I wandered about through the audience during a coffee break listening to their comments. They were disappointed. Knowing his reputation, they had expected more. They found him hard to follow and his talk confusing. He was not as competent a speaker as they hoped to hear. One woman proclaimed to nods of agreement, “He didn’t tell us anything.”

 When you ‘pay’ attention, you will get great value…if you work hard at it. LISTENING PAYS!




By on October 23, 2015

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By on July 18, 2015

“After all we go through. we are asked to lead a life of honest expression, which starts with listening as a way to remember what matters, to name what matters, and to voice what matters. These are the practices that