Listening is …
the heart and soul of leadership
the ultimate leadership competence
the lifeblood of relationship
the essence of respect
the spirit of life.
I have spent the past 25 years studying, practicing, teaching, researching, and writing about LISTENING and its direct connection to LEADERSHIP. I have realized one main thing: IF YOU LISTEN BETTER, YOU WILL LEAD BETTER. Why? Because listening is at the core of all human behavior and especially at the root of effective leadership. Listening is the thing we do the most of in our life, except breathing.
ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? It’s estimated that the majority of adults do not have any formal listening education. Yet, the average person misunderstands, ignores or forgets at least 75% of what they listen to. ‘Listening’ is definitely not the same thing as ‘hearing’. The costs of poor listening are too high to ignore, including loss of relationships, opportunities, trust, respect, credibility, money, and even loss of life, just to name a few. People lose when they don’t listen!
This website contains both free and affordable resources for you to increase your LISTENING LEADERSHIP performance. It consists of articles, books, assessments, a blog, an app, one-on-one and group listening and leadership coaching, listening aids, courses, seminars, podcasts, speeches, and retreats. I have also created a Listening Pays Facilitators Certification Program for qualified professionals in which you will be equipped by me to deliver the Listening Pays Workshop to your organization.
Join me on the journey. I encourage you to invest your time, effort, and energy in your listening leadership performance. It is a lifelong process and the results will prove invaluable to you. It has for me. LISTENING PAYS!
Rick Bommelje, Ed.D., CLP
Lifelong Listening Student
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“After all we go through. we are asked to lead a life of honest expression, which starts with listening as a way to remember what matters, to name what matters, and to voice what matters. These are the practices that keep us authentic.” ~ Mark Nepo, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen.
In our warped speed world, mindfulness is quickly becoming a leadership practice of great value…slowing down and focusing on what matters most. The practice can be extended to our communication and we call this mindful communication. The essence of communicating mindfully is about cultivating understanding and love. It’s a practice devoted to pausing; noticing breathing; identifying and expressing feelings, needs, and expectations with care and respect; and listening for the same in others, asking open questions, and deeply listening with all our senses.
We change hats between being the speaker and listener many hundreds of times during a day. Here are some tips that can keep you in the present moment and bring your communication to a new level:
Sharing your feelings, expectations and needs builds trust, understanding and a mutual relationship that bridges distance between people.
Adopting a mindful approach to communication has many benefits including shared understanding, strengthened relationships, deepened trust, and a keen awareness.
LISTENING PAYS POINT: Take your communication to a new level by being mindful as you speak and listen.
It’s estimated that only 34% of people are fully attentive to a conversation. That means that nearly 7 out of 10 people that you communicate with are not with you. The wise essayist La Rochefoucauld observed, “The reason why so
On a 1 – 10 scale with 10 be the highest, what score would you give yourself in terms of results on your goals so far this year? Are you on track with your goals? Have other things gotten in
Leaders who ask for input and then follow up to see if progress is being made are seen as people who care. Co-workers might well infer that leaders who don’t respond to feedback must not care very much. Historically, a
When you listen you reach into dark corners and pull out your wonders. When you listen your ideas come in and out like they were waiting in line. Your ears don’t always listen, It can be your brain, your