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LISTENING LEADERSHIP PERFORMANCE

BETTER LISTENING =
BETTER LEADERSHIP

Why a website on Listening Pays

I have spent the past 25 years studying, practicing, teaching, researching, and writing about LISTENING and its direct connection to LEADERSHIP. I have realized one main thing: IF YOU LISTEN BETTER, YOU WILL LEAD BETTER. Why? Because listening is at the core of all human behavior and especially at the root of effective leadership. Listening is the thing we do the most of in our life, except breathing.

ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? It’s estimated that the majority of adults do not have any formal listening education. Yet, the average person misunderstands, ignores or forgets at least 75% of what they listen to. ‘Listening’ is definitely not the same thing as ‘hearing’. The costs of poor listening are too high to ignore, including loss of relationships, opportunities, trust, respect, credibility, money, and even loss of life, just to name a few. People lose when they don’t listen!

This website contains both free and affordable resources for you to increase your LISTENING LEADERSHIP performance. It consists of articles, books, assessments, a blog, an app, one-on-one and group listening and leadership coaching, listening aids, courses, seminars, podcasts, speeches, and retreats.

I encourage you to invest your time, effort, and energy in your listening leadership performance. It is a lifelong process and the results will prove invaluable to you. It has for me. LISTENING PAYS!

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Rick Bommelje, Ed.D., CLP

LISTENING TO SPEAKER

10 STEPS TO LISTEN WITH TOTAL FOCUS TO A SPEAKER

By on September 24, 2014

10 STEPS TO LISTEN WITH TOTAL FOCUS TO A SPEAKERLISTENING TO SPEAKER

1. Pay total attention to the speaker even if you don’t agree with them or even like them.
2. When you are listening, keep your eyes on their eyes. Don’t look away unless there is a fire or you have a seriously personal emergency.
3. Be interested – don’t’ look interested.
4. Make sounds only occasionally to indicate understanding and encouragement.
5. Smile occasionally.
6. Don’t even think about interrupting.
7. Don’t ask picky clarifying or confirming questions unless you are totally confused.
8. When the speaker has nothing more to say, ask: “What more do you think or feel or want to say about this?
9. Again, do not even think about interrupting them.
10. If the speaker becomes quiet, but their eyes are still alive, relax. They are still thinking. Let them keep thinking. They may very well have more to say.

Which step do your commit to put into practice during the next month?  LISTENING PAYS!

Source: Adapted from “Time to Think” by Nancy Kline

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