Useful Resources to
OPEN THE GATE to INCREASE your
LISTENING LEADERSHIP PERFORMANCE

BETTER LISTENING =
BETTER LEADERSHIP

Why a website on Listening Pays?

A Letter from Rick

Listening is …
the heart and soul of leadership
the ultimate leadership competence
the lifeblood of relationship
the essence of respect
the spirit of life.

I have spent the past 25 years studying, practicing, teaching, researching, and writing about LISTENING and its direct connection to LEADERSHIP. I have realized one main thing: IF YOU LISTEN BETTER, YOU WILL LEAD BETTER. Why? Because listening is at the core of all human behavior and especially at the root of effective leadership. Listening is the thing we do the most of in our life, except breathing.

ARE YOU ONE OF THEM? It’s estimated that the majority of adults do not have any formal listening education. Yet, the average person misunderstands, ignores or forgets at least 75% of what they listen to. ‘Listening’ is definitely not the same thing as ‘hearing’. The costs of poor listening are too high to ignore, including loss of relationships, opportunities, trust, respect, credibility, money, and even loss of life, just to name a few. People lose when they don’t listen!

This website contains both free and affordable resources for you to increase your LISTENING LEADERSHIP performance. It consists of articles, books, assessments, a blog, an app, one-on-one and group listening and leadership coaching, listening aids, courses, seminars, podcasts, speeches, and retreats. I have also created a Listening Pays Facilitators Certification Program for qualified professionals in which you will be equipped by me to deliver the Listening Pays Workshop to your organization and the Leadership MasterMind Alliance to create opportunities for leadership development.

Join me on the journey. I encourage you to invest your time, effort, and energy in your listening leadership performance. It is a lifelong process and the results will prove invaluable to you. It has for me. LISTENING PAYS!

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Rick Bommelje, Ed.D., CLP
Lifelong Listening Student

SHOW UP AND BE THE DIFFERENCE-MAKER

SHOW UP AND BE THE DIFFERENCE-MAKER

By on January 25, 2016

SHOWING UP COUNTSThe emerging form of leadership in our fast-paced, hectic world is counter-cultural – MINDFULNESS…being attentive, focused, responsive and clear.

Unfortunately, too many times it is the opposite. Here’s an example from a Human Resources manager: “I attended a mandatory meeting of salaried employees at my company. There were about forty people in the audience. The purpose of the meeting was to review the requirements and guidelines of our records retention program.

As the people entered the room, I observed their behavior as they chose their seats and waited for the meeting to begin. It was apparent that most of the participants were not really showing-up for the discussion. Body language and side conversations illustrated that most deemed the subject to not be important to them.

The scheduled 20-minute meeting actually lasted 40. At the end, the speaker lost the attention of all but 4 or 5 of the people in the room. He did attempt to use questions to regain attention, but he used narrow, closed questions that got very short yes-no replies. As the meeting concluded, people quickly raced to the door — with no signs of subject-related conversation.

The irony was that everyone in the room was expected to know something about records retention guidelines so that they could both set up and discard files in accordance with the new rules.”

When attending meetings, SHOW UP and BE THERE. Be fully aware of the purpose of the meeting prior to entering the room and leave with action steps. Focus on the moment and raise your awareness and interest level. Prepare to deeply listen. Continuously probe to find the relevance and meaning of the communication and how it relates to YOU — ask your self……How can I effectively use this information?

LISTENING PAYS in many ways….IF YOU MAKE the INVESTMENT!

What about you, what do you do to SHOW UP?  Share your tips and strategies by REPLYING.

BEWARE AUTOMATIC LISTENING

FIGHTING THE INNER ASSESSMENT

By on December 23, 2015

Two competitive U.S. corporations were working on a joint project. The first step was to build a team composed of engineers from both companies. They were all very committed. The project was going to be profitable for both companies ($650

HARD WORK

LISTENING IS HARD WORK

By on November 20, 2015

Morgan Scott Peck was an American psychiatrist and best-selling author, well known for his first book, The Road Less Traveled. In this classic, he emphasized, “Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because

DIVE DEEP

THE POWER OF DEEP LISTENING

By on October 23, 2015

The term ‘active listening’ is a frequently used term that means a person is a great listener. But the reality is that a person could be faking it, engaging in surface listening and send off the impression that they are

VOICE TONE

VOICE TONE – IT’S YOUR CHOICE

By on September 28, 2015

How is your tone of voice? Researchers claim that up to 40% of your verbal communication is made through tone of voice. Sometimes, it’s even more than that. The 4 elements of voice tone (pitch, speed, volume and emphasis) combine