The 10 Listening Habits

One way to become a better listening leader is to analyze the factors that distinguish the great listeners from the ineffective listeners. Before answering the questions, determine what setting you will use (i.e. work, family, social, overall). Check yourself carefully on each one.

  • How often do you find the speaker's subject uninteresting?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often do you criticize the speaker's speaking skills (in your mind)?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often do you get over-stimulated by something the speaker says?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often do you listen only for facts?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often do you find yourself not taking notes?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often to you fake attention to the speaker?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often do you tolerate distractions?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often do you avoid listening to difficult material?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often do you find your emotions working against what you're listening to?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never

  • How often does your mind wander when you listen?

    • Almost Always
    Usually
    Sometimes
    Seldom
    Almost Never






    © Copyright, 2004, Dr. Lyman K. Steil and Dr. Richard K. Bommelje
    Listening Leaders®: The Ten Golden Rules to Listen, Lead & Succeed
    Original Source Dr. Ralph G. Nichols, used with permission